Shake Those Holiday Blues

You don't have to be alone during the holidays to feel lonely. You could be married or in a relationship and still feel the absence of children or grandkids that live at a distance, or even saddened by memories of holidays past.

But there is a way to fight the blues: stay busy. Plan now for things you'll do over the holidays. The key is to be around others. Here are some ideas:

* Invite others to a potluck where everyone contributes something to the feast.
* Hold a game night at your place. Have a few people bring a game and snacks to share.
* Volunteer to cook or serve at a homeless kitchen. Sign up at a hospital or rehab center to pass out gifts or read to patients who don't have visitors. Don't show up at the last minute, though. Organizers need to know in advance how much help they'll have, so call soon.
* Play Secret Santa for neighbors. Homemade treats in a tin or basket, topped with a bow and left at their door, will put a smile on their faces.
* Check church listings to see if any are holding public holiday meals, then go!
* Join a seniors-only group heading to a fun destination, even if it's only for the day.
* If you're financially able, buy a few new toys for a local agency that's collecting for underprivileged children.
* Volunteer at the animal shelter, or sign up to be a foster home for a small cat or dog.
* And finally, plan your days in advance -- actually write them down on your calendar -- so that you have at least one thing to do each day.
Thought: The best thing about volunteering is that it can turn into a regular activity. That, in turn, can lead to better overall health.

Matilda Charles regrets that she cannot personally answer reader questions, but will incorporate them into her column whenever possible. Write to her in care of King Features Weekly Service, P.O. Box 536475, Orlando, FL 32853-6475, or send e-mail to columnreply@gmail.com.

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